I will admit to one other person in conversation when I am getting defensive and tell them about what I am defending against.
This will still the mind in conversation. A pause before explaining to another what is making us defensive makes this easier. Tell us what is a sign (thought, feeling in your body, word) that lets you know you are about to get defensive.
Tweet a link for your response to @livedtime and be sure to include the hashtag #tds23
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